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To Be Truly Selfish Is To Be Selfless

From the day we are born we view this world from our perspective, a perspective where we seem to be the center of this reality. All that appears real to us is what we want, what we feel and what we think. Selfish nature seems to be innate within our brains and yet as we age, some of us develop a selfless nature for we learn to see from the perspective of the others around us. Those who suffer more understand the sufferings of others, those who experience hunger know what it is for others to go hungry and etc. Yet, with all the information around us to adequately equip us with the wisdom of the suffering and pain of all those around us, our selfish nature seems to prevail most of the time.

I used to be a bad tempered selfish brat that only cared about what I wanted, this eventually developed into how I wanted people to feel because obviously most of the time, I couldn’t get what I want and somewhere along the way, I realized that it was a downward spiral of negative emotion and desire which is selfish above all else. Eventually, I also realized that getting what I wanted out of the spite of getting what I wanted, never really filled that gap of want in me. That was where I started to learn to start the chain reaction of goodwill which would only come back to me and others I cared for… that was my first frail understanding of karma. What I want can pass as easily as a thought in my mind but the karmic ripples of thought and action could eventually rupture into a tsunami of destructive thought waves.

I’m 30 this year, I have met almost every kind of person there is to meet… by learning not to judge at an early age, I was able to befriend everyone from a junkie to a religious fanatic… by understanding the state they were in and why they are the way they are, forces you to accept why they need to be, who they are and what makes them tick. That in turn forced me to dig deeper in myself to see why I am the way I am. This cyclical inner self diagnosis can be overwhelming and tiresome at times; but it made me look at myself in the 3rd person for the last 10-15 years. That is why sometimes I am not even sure who I am, let alone the purpose of my existence.

With meditation and thought, I begun to see that what is, is, and why I exist? Is to simply exist. And to exist as me is simply not enough as we all exist as one and as many. Under a microscope we are an individual, but as a whole, we are one enormous conscious and sentient being, every single matter in the universe is a part of us. So to be selfish on a full scale, we would have to fill every want from everyone, which is impossible, so the next logical thought process would be to eliminate that pointless want. And that is why Wisdom and Compassion goes hand in hand. If you understand selfishness in love and in hate, then it would make sense to you to love all of ourselves (everyone around us) and hate all that would make any of us feel pain and suffering. And to achieve that, each of us would need to attain enlightenment, god’s grace and/or Allah’s love, for IF it can be possibly deduced that the billions of us are as one, why can’t the beliefs we have be similar, but merely tainted by interpretation and translation. For, it takes courage to love someone, but great courage to love everyone. So if you are innately selfish, like 99% of the world, you need to rethink the scale of the self that you comprehend.

~ by case on July 12, 2008.

202 Responses to “To Be Truly Selfish Is To Be Selfless”

  1. Hey Casey, am glad to be the first one to post a comment.. Fifteen years back, I have written a poem on Selfless LOve..Its so unlikely for one to define and comprehend the mystery behind suffering..much more so the real meaning of LOVE..I am a Catholic and LOVE is defined by one simple act..by that man named Jesus Christ who was nailed on the CROSS for the sake of love. To love is to suffer with and for..the loved one..Love can never be without pains..And such mystery remains to be unveiled..Cause one can never love without suffering..Thus, to LOVE all would mean SELFLESSNESS..That I agree..BUT to love is to ACT, not mere thoughts, not mere words..because LOVE for a Catholic Christian is an ACTION WORD.. Thanks Casey for your thought-provoking blogs..’til the next, I would be waiting..take care…

    Genaline said this on July 12, 2008 at 4:29 pm

  2. Addendum: To be selfless, we run the risk of losing one’s SELF.. One needs to be aware of such RISK..God bless!!

    Genaline said this on July 13, 2008 at 12:31 am

  3. ok lang;weirdo

    lindon bernard said this on July 13, 2008 at 2:05 am

  4. Hi. very thought provoking.

    Dorothy said this on July 13, 2008 at 5:26 am

  5. wEll itz owkiE..at least you you do ryt thing..

    my number:09067899300

    shela mae said this on July 13, 2008 at 7:38 pm

  6. Very true indeed. Its a delicate balance between 2 extremities. Anything on either end is hazardrous. Having no slef is also euqal to having no meaning, which equates to no life.

    I personally believe that meaning is the most important principle that carries a person through life. Everything else is a reflection of the meaning the person hold dear to. Selflessness is more of an expression of another meaning hidden beneath.

    DeZs said this on July 13, 2008 at 8:35 pm

  7. be strong always coz God is always there to guide us!!!!!!!

    mhayanthony said this on July 14, 2008 at 3:48 am

  8. dude relax, smoke marijuana, give love, chillout.

    aurora high said this on July 14, 2008 at 8:03 am

  9. nice entry

    ViNCe said this on July 15, 2008 at 10:32 pm

  10. hi

    eipy said this on July 15, 2008 at 11:20 pm

  11. I’m glad it didn’t take you that long to come to such realization in your life. Most people who reach 50 do not even have the slightest idea as to what destructive habits they have…so cheers to you Casey!

    카 렌 said this on July 16, 2008 at 4:29 pm

  12. great to know that there is people like you realize what is around us and be compassionate of it. cheers

    danna said this on July 16, 2008 at 7:27 pm

  13. well i have no comment for that

    sol laurence said this on July 16, 2008 at 7:44 pm

  14. hhhiiiiiii……….

    danika said this on July 17, 2008 at 6:47 am

  15. wow speechless

    ling said this on July 17, 2008 at 8:35 pm

  16. Its so cool for me..but, where did you when you felt like that?? Selfish is not good for our environment..

    fika said this on July 18, 2008 at 4:01 am

  17. Nice…very inspiring…

    Karl Joseph said this on July 18, 2008 at 8:33 pm

  18. so cool………

    Devy said this on July 18, 2008 at 8:38 pm

  19. an inspiring point of view. well i really appreciate sum1 having the same point of view. that the world is not merely composed of good people.

    but loving selflessly is also loving selfishly. u are selfish to what ur subconscious mind is telling u. selflessly. from the word self+less. meaning giving ur ALL. that’s selfishness.

    we would like to show appreciation and gratitude for the author.. thumbs up.

    ChristianGerard said this on July 18, 2008 at 10:49 pm

  20. hhiii!!! soryy i have no comment for that…..

    amin said this on July 19, 2008 at 4:23 pm

  21. no comment

    raze said this on July 19, 2008 at 7:43 pm

  22. hi, this is really thought provoking.. agree with you that selfish nature is innate in all of us, no exemption. it cannot be removed actually. it appears depending on an event or a situation. however, the level is diminished as one, as he age, learn about some values or principles or people that make us realize that we are selfish.

    Bing said this on July 19, 2008 at 8:40 pm

  23. nice one… :)
    >>>iRmZ

    iRmZ said this on July 20, 2008 at 7:40 pm

  24. It is your perception and I respect yours trully. At this point of my Life I’ve learned not to give much attention with what other people thought of me. The hell I care if society based their judgement by merely looking at me and seeing my deeds through their naked and microscopic eyes. I do love your post this time. Inspiring and negative force is far from the system. More of this please. Thank You. God Bless.

    Jo said this on July 20, 2008 at 8:43 pm

  25. Well, I like it…some demented voice from my past is calling me while reading this…LOL! anyways, I too turned 30 this year and I also question myself what can I do to myself to be more productive? Then, I realized that there will always be a masterplan for all of us…we may not like it but eventually we will understand why it happened…so turning 30 is not that bad as long as you have faith…I agree with you, everything that you do good or bad there will always be a chain of reaction…like in friendster blogs…

    almira said this on July 21, 2008 at 6:47 am

  26. Not bad.. but…

    Karto said this on July 21, 2008 at 10:06 am

  27. Nice to know I’m not alone.. Just make sure we’re keep our self in the middle.. Hey, how about making a Club? Those things are really unique..

    aJee said this on July 21, 2008 at 11:32 am

  28. indeed its true,as we grow older we learn and meet all kinds of people..from there we get to know ourselves and learn the purpose of our existence..but at least it didn’t take u that long to realize..nice blog

    dial said this on July 22, 2008 at 4:56 am

  29. hey, uhm..i’m not here to critize or give a compliment..well honestly, i understand the way you defined selfishness..I usually observe the way people think, feel and react to certain circumstances or ideas. just a thought, have you ever asked yourslef (since you mentioned self diagnosis) about why can’t you or anyone fill everyone’s needs or wants?

    dReEcH said this on July 22, 2008 at 8:44 pm

  30. Hi! i have got one for you, to be truly selfish is to eat FISH. Hahahaha! just kidding!

    Steste said this on July 22, 2008 at 9:39 pm

  31. zup???hope ur a good person hehe??can we friends?

    Zia Nicole Kim said this on July 22, 2008 at 9:50 pm

  32. I don’t exactly know the effect of your write ups to me but definitely it has an impact in my mind and heart. Hope you could reach out to me as I also feel the same. I am shattered right now and i don’t know where and how to start. I guess i need to contemplate and be by myself to think deeply.Help!

    Zona said this on July 23, 2008 at 1:29 am

  33. wow nman nosebleed…………

    jAy AnN said this on July 23, 2008 at 6:37 pm

  34. ok lang

    debbie said this on July 24, 2008 at 11:24 pm

  35. well its not bad,when u realized bad things you’ve done its quit easy,but sad to think if you notice your still doing it…all of us has its own weakness,then really trying hard for good, now whats the trick not to lead you back on the same way…….

    max said this on July 25, 2008 at 1:35 am

  36. serious wht u share so deep & so complex…i ard ur age…don’t really unstd la….but i like selfless…love unconditionally from God i believe!!!!!!!

    Lydia Liaw said this on July 25, 2008 at 1:46 am

  37. “god’s grace and/or Allah’s love”

    and you are… ??

    alies said this on July 25, 2008 at 4:45 am

  38. hii, i just give some word 2 u that this worl’s very beaty so u can do d’best 2 all people in d’world

    Wulan said this on July 25, 2008 at 9:22 pm

  39. hye..

    dya.ezora said this on July 26, 2008 at 1:26 am

  40. thats the truthhhhhhhhhhh

    hannah said this on July 26, 2008 at 1:52 am

  41. well, that’s a good thought.

    genifer said this on July 26, 2008 at 8:09 pm

  42. its true.. like the article

    amabelle said this on July 27, 2008 at 5:07 am

  43. that’s the power of speech!!! i agree. Nicely done:-) ery interesting…it helps a lot.

    Sai said this on July 27, 2008 at 6:58 am

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    ..yan email.ad koh.. thnkzz

    loud cleo said this on July 28, 2008 at 11:42 pm

  47. absolutely right…..nice views……

    amy said this on July 29, 2008 at 12:10 am

  48. i love reading ur thought. :)
    me also turns 30 this yr. (just 3 days ago .. he he)

    And beyond this point, i realize so many things in life. Age makes us grow mature. There is nothing we can do on our own power to make up for the times we have hurt those we loved, or the wrong we have done. Except, apologize where you need to, and find true forgiveness by asking God’s forgiveness. Then you will find the true spring in your heart. None of us are perfect, but we all can be forgiven.

    yusliza said this on July 30, 2008 at 7:21 am

  49. we are all selfish as a human its natural for us, what ever satuation, most of all in our heart aches… as my expprience I falling in love with my bestfriend not just and ordinary love its conficated, were both male I LOVElove him so much, I gave all the understanding, but it wont last…….. that was my first heart ache.. nag hiwalay kami but iginigiit ko parin na mag on parin kami, to the point na pinag mumuka ntya akong tanga I accept kasa mahal ko parin xa..ayaw kong maangkin xa nang iba.. dapat sakin lang xa.but then narealize ko na mali ako sarili ko rin ang sinasaktan ko,,, kaya ni let go ko nalang xa kahit masakit… sayang nga lang at pati friendship namin nalet go… pero dito sa puso ko kaibigan ko parin xa

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  52. good artikel, i think selfish is our closed enemy

    Diky said this on July 31, 2008 at 10:40 pm

  53. H!I’m soRry bcoZ me nO comMent that..

    cristina said this on August 1, 2008 at 5:30 pm

  54. Hi
    not only knowing why you exist or simply what’s the purpose of life? nice article…

    thanks

    marilyn said this on August 1, 2008 at 8:59 pm

  55. hi……..

    adel said this on August 1, 2008 at 9:32 pm

  56. I never thought that a drunkard could also have such point of view.

    jenah said this on August 2, 2008 at 11:15 pm

  57. Godbless! un lng

    RoxannE Mae said this on August 4, 2008 at 12:59 am

  58. hnice it

    cutie said this on August 4, 2008 at 4:19 am

  59. Cool blog!

    Prita said this on August 4, 2008 at 6:22 am

  60. we are all intitled to our own opinion no one could change that!wheyher they liked it or not!WHAT MATTER IS AT ANY POINT IN LIFE YOU CAME TO YOUR SENSES!TO STAND UP IN WHAT YOU BELIEVE!!GOD BLESS!!

    odesa may said this on August 4, 2008 at 9:06 pm

  61. hey casey!u r definitely ryt…i appreciate what u have written..

    shikiena said this on August 5, 2008 at 1:41 am

  62. hmm great

    jonathan said this on August 5, 2008 at 1:44 am

  63. Sometimes being selfish or selfless is driven by our motives. Its human nature to be selfish but its also our nature to change that nature….

    princess said this on August 5, 2008 at 7:22 am

  64. HA!NO ANY COMMENT !

    lim said this on August 6, 2008 at 3:26 am

  65. speechless…

    joi said this on August 6, 2008 at 5:53 am

  66. speechless…….

    joi said this on August 6, 2008 at 5:58 am

  67. haloo klo mang lo pengan kenal gua lebih jauh lo add alamat gua ja okay thanks

    Soegeng said this on August 7, 2008 at 5:59 am

  68. you can not be a true person if you are selfish… that is bad you know? keep smiling always…

    divine said this on August 7, 2008 at 10:42 pm

  69. HI….IM PAVI I WOULD LIKE 2 B FRENDS WIF SOMEONE WHO IS REALLY FEEL ALONE

    PAVI said this on August 8, 2008 at 12:03 am

  70. Great beatiful blog….
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    I want to you to exercise me
    Thanks

    Budhi said this on August 8, 2008 at 11:44 pm

  71. nice of u ha? if u have that opinion through ur own perspective it’s gotta be great. though, i havent finished yet to read it (coz I’m too lazzy reading too much writing) but I really understand what u mean in the first paragraph. u know…so many people refuse to learn to look around to the invironment that’s what I see on some people surround me….

    My blog said this on August 10, 2008 at 8:15 pm

  72. That nice said. I understand what you wrote here. “For, it takes courage to love someone, but great courage to love everyone. So if you are innately selfish, like 99% of the world, you need to rethink the scale of the self that you comprehend.” Yup. this one so true, it takes extremely great courage to love everyone especially someone that not goes with same path with you. Have a good time, Casey.

    julie said this on August 12, 2008 at 5:53 am

  73. i read your blog in just the right time. i needed this message. thanx casey!
    by the way, you’re very “word-ful”…lolz

    eRRen said this on August 14, 2008 at 12:47 am

  74. i read your blog in just the right time. i needed this message. thanx casey!
    by the way, you’re very “word-ful”…lolz

    eRRen said this on August 14, 2008 at 12:50 am

  75. grats! its such a wonderful thing happen to u! u must be thankful not all ppl realized life like u :)…thanks for sharing. God Bless

    Maribel said this on August 14, 2008 at 11:48 pm

  76. a very inspiring blog. not all people are as broad-minded as u. pls add me up 2 your friendster, my email address s ORIVIDA@yahoo.com. hope 2 hear from u soon…

    remilie said this on August 15, 2008 at 6:59 am

  77. ♥无心再爱♥

    你说你已经厌倦了
    想要逃开
    我的心已没了期待
    付出是否就能拥有你的爱
    你说你已经明白了
    我为了爱徘徊
    我盼你能紧握
    但你已经松开
    你说
    无心再爱……

    ♥第三者而第三者♥

    我很快乐
    请不要再说爱我
    别再触碰我心里还未痊愈的角落
    习惯一个人的我
    并不是缺你不不可
    如果你是爱我的
    就别让自己在犯错
    我很快乐
    请不要再说爱我
    我已经把失去的当成了一种收获
    悲伤的剧情太多
    曾经总侵袭着我
    所以我不再做
    这第三者的第三者……..

    *我懂了他*

    我懂了他
    他不让眼泪落下
    所以让爱结束在最美刹那
    他的眼里进了沙
    她算了吧够了吧
    不要再苦苦挣扎
    我懂了他
    不要我为他牵挂
    他说天空很大要自由飞翔
    没有结果的爱请
    他放了吧走了吧
    不想要彼此受伤……

    ♥ Cat5177 ♥ said this on August 16, 2008 at 12:17 pm

  78. I’m 32 now and I started to have the same questions when I turned 30. I just cling to the next passion that still accessible to me and puts off those endeavors that I long to be into for another day when I am better equipped for it.
    If you’re ever up for some long drawn discussions on almost any topic, my e mail add is c.sumalojr@yahoo.com I am usually online Sunday afternoon ’til night.

    carlos said this on August 16, 2008 at 10:51 pm

  79. i got a situation that my ex.gf is selfish too… i dont think is a natural act. lyk neurotic disorder she did. sometimes i feel bad for her doing..then i couldn’t take anymore i gave a lot of support to understand her situation but she did stupid things to me.i dont know what im supposed to do.im tired to read her mind want she want in her life now.she feels important and entitled to special favors they really dont care about how other people are feeling and reject..i dont know why? she want me to make her happy in the way she want me to worry like she did now..she say she got a leukemia though she have not!now i let her go and wishing she realize my love for her.

    jhoeseff said this on August 18, 2008 at 12:06 am

  80. hi,hw r u?..i like 2 knw ’bout u..

    jacyntha said this on August 19, 2008 at 1:19 am

  81. if can need ur reply..

    jacyntha said this on August 19, 2008 at 1:21 am

  82. pls add m e. or may be just leave a comment……

    rudolf said this on August 19, 2008 at 5:32 am

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    rudolf said this on August 19, 2008 at 5:41 am

  84. im out of words.. =) kept me in silence for seconds, your thoughts made me stop and think and i dunno, can’t explain.

    BRENDA said this on August 19, 2008 at 8:52 am

  85. LA LANG

    rizaneth said this on August 19, 2008 at 9:32 pm

  86. hi casey…i love ur blog…u got me thinking more of other people than myself…uve got a point in there.hope to read more of your blogs..

    nerissa said this on August 20, 2008 at 2:48 am

  87. FIRST TIME TO VIEW…… INSPIRED!

    M a R i e F e L said this on August 20, 2008 at 7:52 pm

  88. I’ll be turning 30 this year too but to be honest I don’t know how am I gonna feel. Excited?! or I dunno…

    It’s a good realization Casey. It only means that you have a life, a sane life or whatever since life is full of mystery, hehe. Loving whatever around us isn’t hard it just takes a little selflessness sometimes. or having an illusion that the pains & sufferings we couldn’t escape is a reminder or a guide to really feel the real happiness & contentment. It’s like real life is in sync with joy & sorrow.

    Simply Red said this on August 21, 2008 at 3:25 pm

  89. -lUv it!

    r u a christian?

    ♥~rHeA~♥ said this on August 21, 2008 at 4:42 pm

  90. hello..’

    arlyn said this on August 21, 2008 at 9:03 pm

  91. Hi there!
    It’s nice to know that sum1 have managed to maintain certain moral values despite the kind of world that we’re living right now..sumhow there’s still hope.
    God be with you!

    bel said this on August 22, 2008 at 8:57 pm

  92. no. hp’y mna

    jojo said this on August 23, 2008 at 10:21 pm

  93. actUaLly wheN yOu becOme selFleSs,

    the wOrld aLso becOmes selfless for the thinGs that yoU want/need…

    yOu caN caLL thaT gOoD kaRma i guEss..

    =)

    pRescY said this on August 24, 2008 at 7:03 pm

  94. i LiKe ThE wAy U wRoTe ur PoEM..Me Too lIke tO wRiTe pOems,CompoSitONS aND sONgs..r u inspired wen u wrote this one?how nice and very interesting…

    ♥♥sHerAH♥♥ said this on August 26, 2008 at 2:30 am

  95. you KnOW nOt AlL ThE tIMe ThAt We CaN get WhAT WE WANT..ThERe times WeN fAiLure comes in our way..so you better dont be selfish enough to handle this coz once for a while in our lives we are alSo A LOsER OF OUR OWN FATE…so you better strive and believe to tha almighty one and also to yourself..don’t kEeP on pretendig in your feelings ok?hehehe i just want to know u you’re a good writer..hehehe

    ♥♥sHerAH♥♥ said this on August 26, 2008 at 2:37 am

  96. it’s nice!!!

    roger said this on August 26, 2008 at 5:12 am

  97. I love the way you express your thought, buddy! You are absolutely right. We are composed in and as a single matter composed of matter hence we cant just disregard ourselves. We are a unity in diversity!

    roehl said this on August 26, 2008 at 10:33 pm

  98. very well said! i agree in your deepest point of view in life.it is indeed in one point of our life we need a reflection a strong realization.. we should really know our main purpose in this life. Life is so short..live it to the fullest what we sow today we reap tomorrow GODBLESS U!

    Grace said this on August 27, 2008 at 1:01 am

  99. well its so nice blog i can see it even though i was late to read, but i appreciate it, we need to be selfless sometimes but never for the all time…thank you!! it is my first comment..

    emelyn said this on August 28, 2008 at 12:37 am

  100. well its so nice blog i can see it even though i was late to read, but i appreciate it, we need to be selfless sometimes but never for the all time…thank you!! it is my first comment..

    emelyn said this on August 28, 2008 at 12:41 am

  101. Deeply insightful. Love the way you brought such an abstract concept into something more concrete. The insatiable facet of selfishness.I applaud you. Very well written.

    marga said this on August 29, 2008 at 9:33 am

  102. Hi….
    ad me!!

    mirda said this on August 30, 2008 at 1:40 am

  103. beautiful

    patrick40 said this on September 13, 2008 at 5:40 am

  104. ang pangit

    qwerty said this on September 18, 2008 at 12:45 am

  105. tangapin nyo ko pls………………..

    edmar said this on September 19, 2008 at 6:27 pm

  106. touching!!!i can relate mah self to ur write-ups..

    michelleveloria said this on September 19, 2008 at 11:52 pm

  107. senang bisa bergabung tapi masih ada masalah neh….
    tuk yang ingin jadi teman q silahkan kasih komontar ok

    jorzs said this on September 20, 2008 at 3:19 am

  108. nice

    eday said this on September 21, 2008 at 5:50 pm

  109. ok lng

    eday said this on September 21, 2008 at 5:51 pm

  110. nice topic!!well it is not bad to be selfish and same with selfless, kasi minsan i have to be selfish para yung mga taong umaasa sa ‘kin eh matuto rin.. Minsan naman wala sa lugar yung pagiging makasarili ko,,ewan ko ba..at minsan naman hindi ko na iniisip ang sarili ‘ko….heheheheh.

    noree23 said this on September 21, 2008 at 7:56 pm

  111. hmm. i haven’t really read your entry yet. haha

    to be selfish is to sell fish. let us buy what you’re selling.

    what kind of fish are you selling anyway?

    haha. LOL. just messin’.

    maizel-03-witchgirl said this on September 22, 2008 at 11:02 am

  112. gitu aja kok tepot

    seftiyan said this on September 24, 2008 at 7:38 pm

  113. Hmm…The one that i think is selfish is man..don’t anyone recognize it?

    yenniesta said this on September 25, 2008 at 6:34 am

  114. that’s deep! Great thought!

    yetytan said this on September 25, 2008 at 10:27 am

  115. it’s almost october…. haven’t been seeing any new post since July… missing them… it’s like drug, and you’ve got me addicted :(

    confessions said this on September 25, 2008 at 11:51 pm

  116. i i,m i.mrc

    remonsa said this on September 26, 2008 at 5:22 am

  117. ☻☻☻yeah its a great thought!!!!!! for me selfish way is the most admirable thing

    sometimes in my life…☻☻☻

    yna said this on September 27, 2008 at 10:01 pm

  118. yes………. with ALLAH’s love……..

    michaelfitz said this on September 28, 2008 at 8:25 am

  119. lewat aja dulu…sambil kenalan..

    kazyyn said this on September 28, 2008 at 9:31 am

  120. your right of that………
    he!he!he!

    ate yaya said this on September 29, 2008 at 1:33 am

  121. just wanna say man are born selfish and greedy no question about that..so whats your point?i think your very melancholy and when you do something nice to a person you don’t expect good karma..you just do it because its the right thing to do.

    ultramagnus26 said this on September 29, 2008 at 7:36 am

  122. …. absolutely,. it makes sense….

    lexanne0908 said this on September 30, 2008 at 4:48 pm

  123. lolz…….*_*

    hishthaniel said this on October 1, 2008 at 10:35 pm

  124. I agree!
    that true!

    edisonpedaria said this on October 2, 2008 at 4:11 am

  125. hmmm.. just find it pretty ironic.. u said absolute selflessness is to be selfish in a macroscopic level.. we should love everything around us and hate everythung that pains us. but, isn’t pain part of the universe? do we have to love pain too? Loving pain is painful.. hmm.. i just find it pretty ironic.. hahaha.. the universe is full of irony i suppose.

    -marcKun

    marcKun said this on October 2, 2008 at 7:54 am

  126. ganda aa.. infernezs!

    bonekzs said this on October 3, 2008 at 12:19 am

  127. punk not dead

    missfist said this on October 3, 2008 at 9:15 pm

  128. selfish?selfless? you’re such a loser….

    shaolinchan said this on October 4, 2008 at 10:48 pm

  129. well, i thought that everything depends. even if there are things that are certain, still, life is uncertain… you’ll never know ’til you knew it, it’s not over ’til it’s over…

    jephkulet said this on October 4, 2008 at 11:15 pm

  130. thats nice..

    wendell said this on October 5, 2008 at 10:51 pm

  131. hehe im happy kasi naiispired ako sa writings mo hahaha gusto ko din magsulat ng magsulat pero i dont think if im good enough all i know are those simple and very familiar words.. i dont know how am i goin to add you in my friendster so i will just leave my account nlang: kmla5652@yahoo.com

    kamelya said this on October 7, 2008 at 8:36 am

  132. god is there no matter what,just believe in him….

    eriche said this on October 8, 2008 at 9:08 pm

  133. Caring is a wonderful gift that no one can buy, it is made up of love that roots in our heart, that makes fruit of memories not just only for a while but for a lifetime………

    queenthara said this on October 12, 2008 at 6:48 am

  134. awwwwwwwwwwtzzzzzzz ..
    .. thats a ghud story ..

    .. u know

    tinah said this on October 13, 2008 at 1:30 am

  135. ang kakapal naman ng mga face na nag say im ugly

    polene said this on October 13, 2008 at 6:51 am

  136. It’s so nice to read a good one,trying to be selfless..looking 4ward..,
    …ah wat can i say ur good…

    periwingkles said this on October 13, 2008 at 8:15 pm

  137. wow ang rami ng ngcocoment.. hehehe im one of them!

    nka2inspire naman! ang ganda…

    mikan9katie said this on October 13, 2008 at 9:09 pm

  138. wah….ow! I turn 30 this year! and guess what? I want my 30’s is the # age of my life. and reading your message… I am speechless! will life must go on… and make the best of it.

    blizah said this on October 13, 2008 at 9:09 pm

  139. zoe your gonna be suprise me with and don’t call me stinks please

    rafael DC.uyami said this on October 13, 2008 at 11:26 pm

  140. im 21 and i deeply understand it!!

    myke23 said this on October 14, 2008 at 1:57 am

  141. u know
    u inspired me a lot. tnx…….

    MARELYN said this on October 14, 2008 at 2:46 am

  142. hi……..

    MARELYN said this on October 14, 2008 at 2:47 am

  143. nice line but i dont know how about this????♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

    chrix20 said this on October 14, 2008 at 8:12 pm

  144. i nice

    jayceeromans said this on October 14, 2008 at 10:01 pm

  145. i love ur blog casey!!!

    Nice entry,,,

    but sometimes… I’m wondering about that line, since I take philosophy class this semester. “we are just a part of a whole” heheheh
    Sometimes going with the flow is not that good.. going with the flow of the whole thing that is said to be we as a part of a whole… anyway…
    I perfectly understood your message and it touches my heart a lot!! God speed!! xoxo

    preciouz112 said this on October 15, 2008 at 12:58 am

  146. HI I`M MELCAR FROM BORACAY AND I LOVE MY FAMILY MARAMING SANA AKO MESSAGE SAIN YOUN TOUCHES M BEY MY YAHOO PLA AY MELCAR_CUTE08 SALAMAT LOVE YOU

    MELCAR said this on October 15, 2008 at 5:14 am

  147. hmmmm,beware……..

    francelae said this on October 16, 2008 at 7:05 pm

  148. -’like you were reading my thoughts. whew!

    hayahlidasan said this on October 16, 2008 at 8:28 pm

  149. very inspiring.. so nice..

    missdayne said this on October 16, 2008 at 11:25 pm

  150. great writing.

    lataminoka said this on October 17, 2008 at 12:39 am

  151. hai there !
    i like ur realizaton ..
    but as young as i am ..
    i wanna tell u that ..
    it is so much better if we will
    be good and in loving the people because God so love us ! =)
    tnk u !
    may u find meaning in Christ =)

    vanessavella said this on October 17, 2008 at 7:47 am

  152. haiii

    ricka said this on October 17, 2008 at 6:27 pm

  153. nice realization..gud to know u realized it.keep trusting god. i never cared how strong my faith is, all that matters to me is doing the right thing. but then, i realized too that having a strong faith in god is a part, no, a very big part of deep realization of things..

    faye713 said this on October 17, 2008 at 8:49 pm

  154. your totally right! tnx 4 sharing.. i’ve also come to that realization.. :D

    sunflower-3017 said this on October 18, 2008 at 10:24 am

  155. Well it seems like every one has shared the P.O.V. and i cant help but wonder why some aspects of the post thier are thouse that point out thier thought of life and as if putting it on some one else’s face to see the truth ?

    I dont want to ruin the beutify comment of people on this account but what struck me is the “exsist to exsist” part of your note… self realization is give to us we dont need to be religously point at

    Thats why we have a seed of that knowledge embeded in us ..

    bottom line : ” When we acknowledge and see our selves for the true nature we are, Lets thank God ,he allowed us to see our selves”

    hey very eye opening topic

    hope i didnt sound a know it all

    hahaha

    hitorialone said this on October 18, 2008 at 5:46 pm

  156. hi.! i like yUr bLog.! its so inspiring.! take care always.! ^^

    blogxkie said this on October 18, 2008 at 8:05 pm

  157. Nice post!

    It seems easy to say that when we love we should love and give unselfish love but, to think deeper, it is really hard. There is that point in loving people that we really expect something in return. It is a good thing that you realize the “unselfish love”.

    I hope people you meet will see you as what you wanted them to see you. By the way, this is the second time I read a post on your blog and I think I will wait for some writings to be featured again.

    Good luck and may you be blessed.

    riojelle said this on October 19, 2008 at 5:12 am

  158. wow! it’s really impressive to write something like that.. keep it up! love to read ur blogs, so post more! :D

    lovelyjinkay said this on October 20, 2008 at 1:46 am

  159. hi casey,your such a good writer,Your article is so impressive…just keep it up .i hope u inspire everybody who read it. God BLESs YOu anD gudlucK

    lostway said this on October 20, 2008 at 6:55 pm

  160. hallo…..
    pa kbar…..

    Ningsih said this on October 20, 2008 at 8:39 pm

  161. GOOD JOB!!!!
    VERY interesting!!

    khen said this on October 21, 2008 at 2:04 am

  162. I’m a fan now!!! How inspiring… ^___________^

    keulitzz said this on October 21, 2008 at 10:46 am

  163. uhmmm…

    urolweizzbmybaby said this on October 22, 2008 at 4:51 am

  164. interesting thoughts.
    well here is one thing i wanna share to you that i learned over the past few days.
    one morning while i was having my quiet time before i went out for a jog. i was reading the Book of John when a verse struck me most. “He must become greater, I must become less.” John 3:30. I have been going through tough times lately, paying for yesterdays mischiefs. I asked myself more than a couple of times where i went wrong. did i miss the part where i was suppose to turn right but instead i turned left because it was an easier way. but there is no such thing as an easier way really. the easier way is normally the harder way. even harder than harder.
    i realized how selfish i was. even though i thought about others more than i did to myself. how i would be more troubled when a good friend of mine is in trouble and all that stuff. i pride myself for doing anything just to make someone feel better. that was me. i liked being that way. i wasn’t selfish. or so i thought.
    but things changed. i didn’t miss turning right at the next crossroad. i started going to Bible studies. i started going back to church. i started reading the Bible more than i used to. and i’ve realized, how selfish i was back then. not because i was unfair to my friends or to my family but to Him. the One who died on the cross to save you and me. i thought i was doing a good job of making Him happy because i was helping others. but then i realized how much He hurts because i forgot about Him. He never stopped drawing me closer though but everytime He dis, i pushed Him further away. but He never gave up. and now i am born in Him again. i could never be better. all this time i’ve been helping others, it was me who needed all the help i could get all along. and now that i am back with Him, i never forget to remember one thing. to have more of Him, and have less of me. if to be selfless would mean my nothingness in this world, i’d be more than willing to be it. for i know in my Fathers Kingdom, i am a VIP. :)

    sketchies said this on October 22, 2008 at 6:44 am

  165. cool! ;]

    myne20 said this on October 22, 2008 at 9:43 pm

  166. sorry guys… casey is like extremely busy these days. His mom got admitted and he had to take care of the family. So i think he will come out with something really great soon. be supportive guys.. ciao..

    Tiffany Huang said this on October 23, 2008 at 1:12 am

  167. hai friend nice to meet all of you

    koloko said this on October 24, 2008 at 9:07 am

  168. eh aq lg binung nich aq pnya oranisasi namanya forum anak tapi banyak anak yang tidak berangkat saat kumpul. tolong dong kasih aq saran even yang menarik tuk bikin pada betah makasih banget lho, bye

    koloko said this on October 24, 2008 at 9:11 am

  169. ♥♥♥…you can view my blog if you want!…you have a wide points of view!
    i think your nice…♥♥♥..

    anzeneyvette said this on October 26, 2008 at 5:10 am

  170. okay someone here add me pls.

    ogocrisologo said this on October 27, 2008 at 9:02 am

  171. finally! a pretty readable blog on friendster!

    zackstory-profile said this on October 27, 2008 at 10:33 pm

  172. “I used to be a bad tempered selfish brat that only cared about what I wanted…” - so am i. it is so hard to be like this, but somehow i still manage to deal with it. :)

    wildprincess said this on October 28, 2008 at 1:11 am

  173. woah

    great writings :D
    i just found it on FEATURED blog so i take a look at it
    and my time doesnt goes through waste
    thanks fr posting this thingy :D
    bravo

    deramn-marden07 said this on October 28, 2008 at 9:26 pm

  174. Thanks for the blog, it’s great! I am a Christian and your article proves that all of us is searching for the same undefined as interconnected to each other religion doesn’t matter I just get a glimpse, We have to be selfless to emit the divine love that we have to show and share to the world. Hope to read more from you….

    midanro said this on October 29, 2008 at 12:02 pm

  175. Great Article! Some zen thought here, but I agree fully with you. To give unconditionally, that’s the way to go. That’s the best reward coz the exultation garnered surmounts everything else. Even better than striking lottery perhaps…

    Alvin Yap said this on October 31, 2008 at 11:02 pm

  176. my god so many replies

    maiko-sk8 said this on November 1, 2008 at 8:56 am

  177. Wow…sometimes I feel the same way too… I’m always finding the true me…. And because we’re not perfect we became selfish sometimes but sometimes it’s because we love truly that we hate the thought of loosing that someone and know that God knows what to teach us to open our minds…. He has a way to teach ryt fRom wrOng… God is the answer

    fud3p said this on November 2, 2008 at 12:35 am

  178. i enjoy reading your blogs and i had learned a lot of stuff…i had seen myself in that,it’s very inspiring…

    misty-gal said this on November 3, 2008 at 2:17 am

  179. i have is my blog

    Masdar Hilmi said this on November 5, 2008 at 11:15 am

  180. is my lieve

    Masdar Hilmi said this on November 5, 2008 at 11:15 am

  181. hai???

    velove ananda said this on November 5, 2008 at 6:10 pm

  182. hi….friend Capa yg mau knL aq add aja di velove_ananda@yahoo.com

    velove ananda said this on November 5, 2008 at 6:15 pm

  183. very nice!! are u an author of a book or something? ;)

    josieramoy said this on November 6, 2008 at 6:27 pm

  184. Nice one dude. Are u an author of a book? Ur post is full of meanings. I Love it. ^^

    quekdestiny said this on November 12, 2008 at 8:11 pm

  185. THE TRUTH ABOUT LIFE IS IN GOD-HIS WORDS-, NO ONE ELSE, IF U LOOKED THE OTHER WAY AROUND UR MESSING UP WITH YOUR LIFE ITS A DEAD END. NO OTHER WAY BUT GOD, CHRIST JESUS. SHALOM!PEACE!
    LIVE A LIFE WITH HIM, LIFE IS SHORT,., BY THE WAY NICE TOPIC U HAVE A APPRECIATED IT MUCH.

    chrisforum said this on November 13, 2008 at 1:02 pm

  186. you leave me in a very deep thought after reading this

    falconichigo said this on November 21, 2008 at 12:33 pm

  187. wow, so many comments. Wondering you will notice my comment or not? Yes, I have been learning to the ‘unconditional love’ 4 yrs ago. Recently, i am reading a book ‘The art of remaking men -Paul Campbell’. Selfish can be origin from the lust for sex/security/success. Based on my own experience, all the lust will only be eliminated when i have found something within myself instead of keep asking/requesting from outside/others. The emptiness in my heart will never be filled up by asking from outside.
    I’ve used to write my thoughts in my blog also (http://xycherry.blogspot.com) but most of the time in mandarin. I have learnt to keep myself silent,close eyes, silent time in the morning. Most of the time,i will look into myself instead of pointing others short coming. Bec it doesn’t help me to keep pointing others, by the end of the day the most problems came from me! Let’s look at our hand when pointing people, there are 3 fingers pointing ourselves.(sometime others might be the mirror of me,depends whether we can see it from outside or not?)
    No matter how, i am appreciate your sharing really great. Thank you.~~~

    Quote”You borrow the money you don’t have,
    You buy the things you don’t need,
    You impress the people you don’t like!”

    xycherry said this on November 24, 2008 at 2:09 pm

  188. That was deep but it made me think…

    jd-sly said this on November 27, 2008 at 7:18 pm

  189. it seems that you’re a very deep person……..your essay is very sensible………….

    roberthaya said this on November 27, 2008 at 7:36 pm

  190. hey u have a lot of comments from this post. All i can say is loving oneself first before you can rally say you love others. Its hard to love others especially those people we see everyday who knows nothing but to block our way. These people are indeed unlovable.. but with the miracle of prayer, it cleanses ones heart.

    mgdavmar-rn said this on December 4, 2008 at 6:04 pm

  191. nice.

    but one thing i have found, beneath all these words. speaks one truth. your getting OLD.

    yeah, we are all going in that direction, a road seldom cross not until you’ve become exhausted, weary, melancholic, and with age.

    but i can say, you’ve never meet the person, who taught me deeper meaning and understanding life and God.

    There is no such thing as INNATE SELFISHNESS. Its the environment around you, you learn to be SELFISH. from what u may have seen, percieve or understand. We humans have an INNATE GOODNESS, our body design not to kill, we dont have fangs or claws to rip people, far above we have understanding, to UNDERSTAND anybody that may came across everyday. One thing is clear, you have within you is INCONTENTMENT. being content in whatever [circumstance] leads no room to a person to be selfish.

    jaa nee.

    rank3 said this on December 14, 2008 at 10:34 pm

  192. hello .

    nice thought…but too selfish!!!

    flordette said this on December 17, 2008 at 5:05 am

  193. Third(3rd) paragraph, last sentence, you said “That is why sometimes I am not even sure who I am, let alone the purpose of my existence”. By this statement it is clear that you are confused. A thought from a confused person will sow confusion among its readers.

    Even Jesus said “Love others like you love Yourself”. I am sure of this quote I just don’t know what part in the Bible or what verse. This qoute is clearly in contradiction with what you are preaching in your blog.

    So if you understand what Jesus has taught, you will understand that Jesus wants us to be somewhere in between selfishness and selflessness. In that way there’s balance in our lives.

    merese said this on December 18, 2008 at 11:29 am

  194. whew..that was a blasT! ^^

    keitaro-shun said this on December 18, 2008 at 9:18 pm

  195. inspiring entry.. God Bless You and everyone reading your blog.. have a nice day! (*^__^*).v..

    crescent-moon said this on January 8, 2009 at 11:53 pm

  196. Wow, that was deep..
    (claps for u, casey)
    but i know to myself
    I’m not selfish so i
    think there’s nothing
    I should say about this.
    All i know is that I do have
    a symbiotic relationship with my
    friends, and family.. a thing we call give and take (^.^)

    lakingbearbrandako said this on January 9, 2009 at 1:57 pm

  197. good one.

    cheers!

    pls view my blog. thnx guys!

    circuitbreaker said this on January 16, 2009 at 8:34 pm

  198. it’s to deep ..
    but i can relate into it ..
    and it made me think .. =)

    nice entry ..
    Godbless!

    hapinez said this on February 1, 2009 at 7:41 pm

  199. Casey, just droppin by n get amaze with your point of view. well said, luv it.
    hope to read more of your writing.
    have a good weekend

    enny-tan said this on February 6, 2009 at 1:26 pm

  200. I love this post….It makes a lot of sense and i can actually relate to it.

    buckteethchin said this on February 12, 2009 at 10:48 pm

  201. kono koto wa totemo subarashikatta ne! it was totally AWESOME!

    jimlee080303 said this on February 15, 2009 at 1:45 pm

  202. sna mkgwa rin ako nito.. i also love writing

    psych_liza said this on February 26, 2009 at 6:29 am

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